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  • A life lived slowly and deeply…

    A life lived slowly and deeply…

    It is February 2020 already.  January is gone. I am back to work and this week I have another birthday that is moving me further away from middle age- and to old age.  ‘Normally’ and by now, my goals for the new year and the new me would have been printed and posted somewhere I could read and action daily.  For reasons I am only now defining, I have put off creating this list.  That seems so out character for me. 

    I discipline myself to first go back over 2019 instead and list the highlights and the challenges. With sadness, I realise another year has passed and it feels like I have skimmed over the surface of life without living deep enough.  In spite of my activity and achievements, I have lost more than I have gained in the process. 

    Take my health, for instance.  I started off last year with good habits that were rewarded with improvement in my health and weight. But there came a tipping point, when an overloaded adrenal system upset all my hormones and progress.  Doing more was not the answer. Doing less was, but it was also so counterintuitive, especially when I was in the habit of pushing myself for so long.   

    And then there is my creativity.  For those of you that read my blog regularly, you will notice how little I have written in the past six months.  I am very aware of this. I can do analytical any old day, but my ability to express myself creatively seems to be squeezed out when life is reactive and seemingly frantic and shallow.

    I suspect that this year, is a year to shed some of those good things that are making me too busy to experience life deeply.   My preoccupation with ticking boxes and kicking goals has gotten out of hand.  I forgot how to live in the moment.  As I rush onto the next thing, I find myself shovelling food into my mouth. If I am going to slow down, perhaps I can start by chewing and tasting my food instead.   Instead of cramming in another workout, perhaps I would be better off pausing enough to breathe deeply. 

    I have book on my bookshelf called ‘’In Praise of Slowness: Challenging the Cult of Speed”. The author Carl Honore challenges us by pointing out human’s history of speed and efficiency. He identifies the benefits of a slower paced lifestyle.  “The great benefit of slowing down is reclaiming the time and tranquility to make meaningful connections–with people, with culture, with work, with nature, with our own bodies and minds.”

     If this year is going to be different to last year, I will have to forgo much of my speed and efficiency that I have spent decades perfecting. If I am to live life slowly and deeply, I wonder can I to do that without making lists and setting goals?

    Photo by Pablo Orcaray @pborcaray on Unsplash.com

  • The Importance of Silence

    The Importance of Silence

    Packing my bag for a recent camping holiday, I made a decision not to bring or download novels.  Whilst I absolutely love to read and desperately needed to relax, I also was missing being creative.  I hadn’t blogged in ages and wanted to produce something myself rather than read something someone else had created. 

    So instead of packing my Kindle, I packed journals and pencils.  I also took my Bible as a book, rather than reading the app on my phone.  The island we camped on is remote and wi-fi free; and most times mobile coverage free. For ten days, I was technology free and not connected to the random visual and audio kaleidoscope from my phone that usually distracts me.  It was amazing! 

    Now, less you think we are too good, the temptation did remain to be connected to our devices.  I did dig out a few reference books on my kindle app and certain other family members still found games to play on their devices.  For the most part though, when we were not active on or around this amazing section of the Great Barrier Reef, we were playing cards or games as a family.  Or resting. 

    I did not realise how tired my body and mind were until I slowed down.  There were no emails to read or to respond to, nor housework or yard work to do.  There was no rushing and no agenda. Just time to rest and relax.   How absolutely wonderful and restorative.

    The first thing I did when I returned home was to revisit my habits.  My first priority was to buy a bedside alarm clock and charge my phone in my office overnight.  I have stopped reading novels for now and have used this time to write in a journal, in order to unpack the complex emotions and thoughts that almost assault me everyday in just living and working in this modern world.  This helps to clear my mind enough so I can explore something more creative and life giving- and to sleep better at night. I have a little giggle to myself when a thought crosses my mind and I automatically reach out to “google-it” on a phone no longer there. I have also removed my work email app from my mobile.

    Secondly, I am trying to break my habit of efficiency.  Dr Susan Biali Haas in her article “Slow Down to Wake Up Your Life” reminded me that like her, I too had been rushing through my life with pressured, driven detachment.  I want to pull myself out of the habit of connecting superficially with my life and instead connect with it deeply.  As she puts it so well “instead of spending all your time scrambling up and down the superficial scaffolding of ‘to-do’s’ and distractions, you get reminded of what counts.”  For me, that is reconnecting with my heart and with God’s heart.  I can do this reasonably well on the weekend, but I am seriously finding this difficult during the week, as a high school teacher in a demanding school.

    As an introvert, I have known for a long time that solitude recharges me. I have missed that and am grateful that my holiday reminded me of its importance.  Slowing down, breathing, not reaching for my mobile phone and rediscovering small moments of solitude in my weekdays is new habit I am determined to develop.     Richard Foster in his book “Celebration of Disciplines” says silence goes hand in hand with solitude.  For someone who loves words, it is quite a challenge to consider one of his recommendations – to spend a day or part of a day without speaking to anyone. 

    While I was rediscovering the importance of silence, a girlfriend of mine stumbled on hers overseas.  She spent a day alone on a remote mountain top, while the mist rolled in.  In that short amount of time, she was inspired to fill a page with the titles of articles and chapters she will now write. 

    The words of James Altucher ring true, “Out of silence comes the greatest creativity. Not when we are rushing and panicking.” 

    But silence is more than the absence of speaking and going technology free.  As one desert father is quoted as saying “…There is silence of the tongue, there is silence of the whole body, there is silence of the soul, there is silence of the mind, and there is silence of the spirit.”   

    That sounds like being still, that the Bible talks about. (Psalm 46:10 and 37:7)  Boy, that’s hard in this crazy busy, 24/7 technology day and age. But I think I’m finally learning the importance of silence and I’m clawing it back, one habit at a time. 

  • When your story ends, what will your best chapters be?

    When your story ends, what will your best chapters be?

    When your story ends, what will your best chapters be? Will it be the last chapter of your story or will it be chapters written a long time ago?  Will your final story be a testament of flourishing or just survival?

    Sometimes it feels like my best years are behind me.  They certainly are, if the measure I use is linked to my youthful qualities.  Especially if that involves one’s skin’s elasticity and lack of grey hairs.  The body tires easily now and doesn’t bounce back as well as it did in my 20s and 30s.  I have far more aches and creaks in my joints too, and I do not expect that will lessen. 

    It makes me sad to see people give up on living when they get older and yet, I realise that sometimes you just run out of oomph!  Instead of leaping out of bed in the morning with optimism, you drag yourself out with a hint-or more of cynicism. When recent chapters of your story are lack lustre, you question if it isn’t all down hill from now. 

    Something far sadder, is young people declaring their life is not worth living.  My heart hurts when a beautiful young person’s first few chapters are filled with hardship, grief and loss instead of love and promise.  Recently I looked into a beautiful young person’s eyes, declaring that I would miss them, if they gave up on life.  And ‘so, would your friend miss you too’, I declared.   I wanted to say so much more. I wanted to say that with help you can write new chapters; better chapters.  The beginning need not dictate the end. There are different and better chapters ahead.   

    I am always encouraged when I see older women-and men, flourishing in their final chapters of their lives.  They inspire me to keep on pressing on.  My own father would plant trees, expecting to enjoy their fruit.  He would make plans for his next adventure, willing to keep writing those chapters until the very end. 

    I see older women, even elderly women working out in the gym, stepping out on the line dancing floor and joining me for a 5 km park-run, and I am inspired.  I only started line dancing this year.  Some days I despair of ever getting the steps right or being able to enjoy the movement without my brain hurting. As if sensing my frustrations, one experienced dancer, twenty years my senior told me, ‘I started dancing when I was your age. Don’t give up.’  And so, I keep going. There’s hope for me yet, I realise.  And then there’s the fact that dancing is also good for my brain. Research tells me it can even make my brain younger!  

    I want my final chapters to be my best chapters yet.  I want them to be chapters of flourishing and not just surviving. By flourishing, I mean growing, blossoming and bearing fruit.  Not just existing and staying alive until I die.  What if, the best chapters of my life are yet to be lived?  What if ALL of my experiences have prepared me for this moment and the one’s ahead?  How could ALL of that be used for good?   

    There is something altruistic about doing good and leaving behind a legacy.  Not so that we are famous or infamous, but rather so that our life is bigger than the sum of one.  I also take heart to know that my life is not my own; I am first loved by God and He has a purpose for me being here.    I take comfort in knowing that no other person is like me and I have a place here just by being me.   I want that beautiful young person to know that too. 

    No matter how much I’ve messed up or my previous chapters have been messed up, I draw comfort from these words from the Bible And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. (Romans 8:28 NIV)

    And with His help, I am hopeful that when my story ends, the best chapters will be my last. 

    Photo by Allef Vinicius on Unsplash

  • Old fashioned or not? Whatever happened to hospitality?

    Old fashioned or not? Whatever happened to hospitality?

    I grew up in a home where the kettle was a few whistles short of a fresh pot of tea.  And dinner only required a few more potatoes before your family could join ours too.  If you needed a bed, we could give you one as well; sometimes that was just a mattress on the floor.  None of this was at all fancy, but I watched my parents do this with sincerity and joy, in the name of good ol’ country hospitality.

    According to the Oxford dictionary, hospitality means ‘the friendly and generous reception and entertainment of guests, visitors, or strangers.’  My parents were always friendly to anyone that came down the driveway or knocked on their door.  Whatever we had, we shared and it always seemed to be accompanied by a fresh pot of hot tea.

    My husband’s grandmother was from the country too.  I remember arriving with my then boyfriend after a very long road trip.  The mountain air was cold before we entered her warm country kitchen, where she immediately bustled about making fresh tomato soup, and a fresh pot of hot tea.  She did it with such enthusiasm and love. And, to this day I have never tasted a tomato soup quite like hers did that night.

    A couple of weekends’ ago, I had two lots of house guests.  One of my guests, after she patted my friendly dog and enjoyed my home-made jam on her breakfast toast, suggested I should open my own Bed and Breakfast.  I admit I was surprised at the suggestion. I had never thought of myself as someone who would charge for this type of hospitality.

    I have formal qualifications in Hospitality and I teach high-schoolers the same, but I have separated this type of professional hospitality from that of home and hearth; good ol’ country hospitality.  At times, it feels that the theory side bears little resemblance to the spirit of hospitality in the home.  But, it should!   Hospitality is about love and care.

    In ancient times and especially biblical times, offering hospitality to strangers was considered a virtue; even a command.  Sharing food with someone else was akin to sharing life and an act of love.  Sometimes, one might even offer hospitality to angels. (Abraham did. This is recorded in Genesis 18.)

    I wonder if the local coffee-shop isn’t a blend of commercial hospitality with good ol’ fashioned home hospitality? I love it when I stumble upon a coffee shop imbued with the spirit of generosity and love; sharing life along with food and drink in a communal sense.  Of course, so much of the Australian coffee shop scene belongs to small business owners, as opposed to larger and more commercial hospitality chains.  Perhaps that is why the spirit of hospitality is so much more noticeable.

    I used to dream of a home where I could entertain and the kitchen and my mess could be hidden from guest’s view.  I don’t want that any longer.  I enjoy it when I have guests, who sit at the breakfast bar chatting while I prepare their meal or they chop something up too.  Just like my visitors did a couple of weekends ago.   And yes, there was cups of tea-and coffee too! 

    As Shana Niequest, is quoted as saying in her book Bread and Wine: A Love Letter to Life Around the Table with Recipes, “The heart of hospitality is about creating space for someone to feel seen and heard and loved. It’s about declaring your table a safe zone, a place of warmth and nourishment.”

    I am not going to open a Bed and Breakfast anytime soon, but I think I’d like to create more opportunities to welcome people around my table, sharing warm and nourishing food as well as fellowship…along with cups of fresh, hot tea.   Does that make it food for the soul? Or just good ol’ fashioned hospitality?  Or not…perhaps it’s just the forgotten heart of hospitality.

    photo by John-Mark Smith @mrrrk_smith on unsplash.com

  • Happy Mother’s Day to my Mumma in heaven.

    Happy Mother’s Day to my Mumma in heaven.

    My Mumma loved babies-she had four of them.  I was her first born; born in a little Central Queensland hospital, just short of her 21st birthday.  By the time she was twenty-five, she was the mother of four children under four years old.  If she was still alive, she would see her youngest baby turn fifty this year.

    The first ten years of motherhood were spent in relative isolation for my Mumma.  She would care for her babies in an old wooden Queensland home, surrounded with verandas and big wide paddocks filled with grain.  The nearest neighbour would be miles away, accessed only by dusty-sometimes boggy, narrow country roads, across bumpy cattle grids and through multiple farm gates.  When her babies were old enough, they got the job of opening and shutting those gates.    

    Mumma had to be brave. She would wrestle a gun to shoot snakes that threatened her babies and kangaroos that threatened my Daddy’s crops.  She was paranoid her babies would get bitten and would insist we stay nearby.  Some nights, when Daddy came home, she would show him the snake she had shot that day. Its tail touched the ground one side of the fence she had slung it over. It’s head touched the ground the other side. 

    Before my Mumma could cook, she had to stoke up the fire in the old, cast-iron, slow combustion stove, that was tucked away in the recess of her kitchen. Daddy would chop the wood, and often light the fire, but she had to keep it from going out.  The big, cast iron kettle would sit at the rear of the stove, filled and warm; ready to bring to the boil again when the workmen returned or a visitor turned up.  The warmth of the stove would raise the most amazing bread dough and sweet German Kuchen.  The same stove would keep rescued baby ‘roos warm in their hessian bags, little chicks alive at night and many kittens purred in it’s glow. 

    My Mumma’s babies were bathed in a little, plastic tub atop the melamine kitchen table, alongside of the warmth of that stove.  When we were older, she would often place all four of us in the enamel claw foot bath. The bath sat on top of grey, cold concrete in the roughly built bathroom set down four stairs below the kitchen. Sometimes the neighbour’s kids would end up in the bath with us, when they came to visit.  Especially when we all came up in welts from the itchy grubs that lived amongst the brigalow scrub we liked to play in. 

    Water was precious.  Our family of six relied on rain to be caught and stored in the attached corrugated iron tank.  The harsh, mineralised water pumped from the artesian bore was available but rarely used.  Maybe my Mumma used it in her shiny, new, Simpson wringer washing machine that stood proud and centre of the open laundry, alongside of our little bathroom. On a cold winter’s morning the water was often held hostage and frozen in the old lead pipes.  Warm water was only possible and available in the bathroom, if the fire was hot and water passed by the heater attached to the stove. 

    Mumma had to be strong. If Daddy wasn’t home by dark, she had to visit the garage, with its dirt floor and smell of diesel-and always the threat of snakes, to crank the generator.  The steel wheel with its attached handle, required a firm grip and strong arm to turn the crank handle and fire the diesel generator.  (Wealthier neighbours could afford a press button generator.)  She sometimes cranked the generator during the day, if she wanted to use her Sunbeam mix master to mix cakes and cookie doughs to bake for her babies and my Daddy.  At night, the generator would provide the electricity for our single, incandescent bulbs that glowed in each room.

    Mumma had to be careful. She was a Mumma before child restraints were mandatory in cars.  Her babies were transported in a wicker bassinette that would sit on the bench seat.  Her toddlers would usually stand on the same bench seat, no doubt distracting her while she drove and shifted the gears on the column. On Sundays, Daddy would drive our family wagon, giving her a rest.  One of us could sit on the front bench seat between Daddy and Mumma. Mostly, her bigger babies sat wearing their Sunday best on the bench seat behind them.  On special occasions and long distances, we would get to lie down in the back of the wagon. Daddy would carry the sleeping babies inside, when we got home to the dark homestead.

    There are many more things I remember about my Mumma and my childhood in that country home.  They are distant but good memories.  Mumma was mostly happy in those years.  In her latter years, she was mostly sad until she left us far too young at sixty-six. 

    Today, is Mother’s Day and I choose to remember her in those early years, when she poured out her life caring for her babies, including me.  In these years she stood shoulder to shoulder with my Daddy in outback Queensland, when they were share-farmers.  I choose to remember her as our loving Mumma; brave, strong and full of care.  I love you Mumma. Happy Mother’s Day. 

  • Vegemite for Breakfast, Lunch and Tea

    Vegemite for Breakfast, Lunch and Tea

    I do not think you can be a true-blue ridgy-didge Aussie until you have eaten, and enjoy vegemite. Perhaps even until you can enjoy it for breakfast, lunch and tea, as the jingle goes!

    One of the first foods I was fed was vegemite. It was stuck to a teething rusk.  Many a baby photo of mine, my siblings and even my children come with chubby cheeks smudged with the sticky black paste we call Vegemite.  Mum would sit us in our highchair on the old Queenslander’s veranda and shove a vegemite smeared teething biscuit in our pudgy hand.  I assume the veranda was strategic for both the natural breeze and the reduction in sticky finger marks to walls and other pieces of furniture. 

    A typical and staple childhood sandwich- or sanga as we called it, was white bread smeared with real butter and the black spread, roughly cut into squares and wrapped in waxed paper. It was one of my favourite sangas or maybe it was my only option, as I was passed it most mornings to put into my school bag.  It sometimes came home too and was fed to the dogs, because sometime during the day it was squashed and became warm in my school bag.

    Next to Weetbix and reconstituted powdered milk, toast and vegemite was a staple brekky food in my childhood.   In my early years toast was not that easy to make though, as it required a parent to stoke up the slow combustion stove and spear a piece of bread on a long fork and toast it over the coals.  Even when we had electricity, the electric toaster was tricky and even dangerous to use.  It was not until my teens year that we had a popup toaster and we could toast our bread without supervision.

    Vegemite goes well on crackers. It is a yummy base to cheese and or tomato.  My cracker of choice may have changed from the Sao to a rice cracker these days, but there are still days I crave the salty base of the black paste with a slice of ripe red tomato and a slab of tasty cheese.  I have even used it in a cooking class, layering vegemite with grated cheese on puff pastry to bake vegemite scrolls. 

    I reckon every family in Australia in my childhood kept a jar of Vegemite in their pantry. It has a long shelf life and is versatile. It does not spoil either when flecks of toast crumbs and streaks of butter are left in the jar or the lid is left off for some time.

    If you want a quick cup of soup, why not try a teaspoon of vegemite dissolved in a steaming cup of hot water.  I can even manage a teaspoonful by itself; although even this Aussie girl thinks that is going a bit too far.  

    The company behind vegemite has tried a few new things in recent years but as far as I can see they did not succeed.  Why mix it with plastic cheese when you can slather your own black paste on a hand sliced piece of tasty Coon?   What were they thinking when they mixed it with Cadbury chocolate?!  I, have however, appreciated the new packaging.  Many a time I have travelled overseas or sent a care package to a fellow Aussie and have praised the plastic tube that you can now buy.

    Every now and then I give Marmite and Promite a trial.  I just cannot get past the fact that they are foreign counterfeits. Maybe it is nostalgia. Maybe they all are an acquired taste.  Vegemite is my acquired taste. I still keep a jar in my pantry for when I crave it.  Actually, at last count I had two jars of the stuff.   

    Yes, I know Vegemite is now owned by an American company. But to me, it will always remain an iconic food of Australians.  And I will always be a vegemite kid; ‘a happy little vegemite’! 

  • The power of mirroring and mentoring

    The power of mirroring and mentoring

    I work with youth that have little idea what fabulous humans they are.  Some of them have really tough lives and survival is more of a priority than their self-esteem. When you ask them what their strengths are, they have very little awareness and yet they can quote what seems to be every one of their imperfections.  Why is it that they can look in the mirror and see what is wrong with them but struggle to identify what is right? 

    What if they are looking in the wrong mirror?  Who are they believing and looking to that reflects back to them their strengths and their value? What if the only people in their lives reflect back their imperfections? 

    Growing up, my grandfather and my father were two significant people who called my strengths out and believed in me.  I still remember my grandfather, or ‘poppa’ as I called him, commend me for my interest in playing the piano and painted a beautiful picture of me sitting at the piano performing one day.  (I have continued but I will forever remember his belief in me).  My father believed in me academically and both supported and commended me for my achievements at school.  I went on to attend and complete university and attribute my capacity to do that because of his belief in me; right down to the mornings he cooked me fried eggs for breakfast before an exam, ‘because they are brain food’, he said. 

    As an adult, I have one particular older lady, who while she dismissed my request to formally mentor me, still did so in her own quiet way.  She was the one who nudged me forward by recommending me and encouraging me to accept speaking engagements and positions of leadership.  She believed in me before I could believe in myself.

    To develop as humans, we need people that believe in us and can give us feedback that we are growing the right way.  Less we grow weary and give up, we need more positive feedback than negative. Positive feedback is vital to our sense of well-being as well as our growth.    

    As a teacher, when teaching a new skill, it is important that I give feedback to my students on their progress. How else will they know if they are doing it rightly or wrongly?  Why not take that further and mentor the whole person?  As a parent, I seemed to be doing that all the time in my children’s lives.   

    Last year, I paid for a mentor to help me grow in a particular area where I felt I lacked clarity and was stagnating.  She helped me to see things about myself that I did not always see and gave me a nudge to take risks I would otherwise not dare to do.   Most of what she did was mirror back to me the potential and strengths I already had. 

    As a person of faith, I know that my heavenly father is the one I should look to for my perfect reflection.  He says things like ‘you are chosen’, ‘you are loved’, ‘you are forgiven and redeemed’ and ‘you have a purpose’.  How important is it for those of us who know this, to reflect this as we champion others?

    I am grateful. I am grateful for Him and for others who have called out my potential and believed in me, when I could not. And I am also concerned. I am concerned for young people who do not have an adult to tell them what a wonderful human they are and mirror back to them their strengths and their potential.  Many days, my workload threatens to overwhelm me but I am more aware than ever that pausing to tell a young person I believe in them and call out their potential may be the most important thing I do that day. 

    As Rita Pearson says “Each child deserves a champion- an adult who will never give up on them, who understands the power of connection, and insists that they become the best that they can possibly be.” 

    Who are you championing at present? Who do you know that needs an adult to not give up on them and would benefit from you believing in them? May this week be the first week of many where we reflect back to a young person their strengths and their potential to be all they can possibly be.

    #speaker #teacher #writer

    #mentor #mentoring #mirroring #championing #champion #potential

    Photo by Erik Eastman on Unsplash

  • Perfection kills bravery

    Perfection kills bravery

    Rashma Saujani, the founder of “Girls who Code” says-and I agree, “we must teach our girls bravery not perfection.”  In her address to Harvard’s School of Graduate Education in 2017, she said “we train girls to be perfect—to please and play it safe, to follow the rules, and to always get straight A’s. The result? Girls are kicking you-know-what in the classroom, but falling behind in the real world. Because in the real world, success is a product of bravery, not perfection.” 

    Bravery is synonymous with courage, audaciousness, boldness and fearlessness.  The problem with perfection is it is often motivated by fear of failure and anxiety; the very things that kill bravery.  When did we forget that perfection is an illusion; a myth? 

    This does not mean that we do not pursue excellence.  It does mean that we acknowledge that there is a point where enough is ‘good enough’.   As Ron Ashkenas, argues, there becomes a certain point in our efforts, that adding more effort does not produce significantly more gains.

    What then if ‘good enough’ is average.  Greg McKeown in “Today, just be average”, suggests that this is in fact a reasonable goal to counteract perfection.  He suggests that instead of being perfect try being ‘good enough’ or ‘average’ instead; “…try doing something really hard: try being average for one day.  What you might find might surprise you.”

    Being perfect not only kills bravery, but is also killing us. There is a growing concern that the idea of perfectionism might be behind a recent rise in serious mental illness, including anxiety.  Recent research affirms a significant increase in perfectionism-especially socially prescribed perfectionism (excessively high social expectations) and the concern attached to this.  Curran and Hill in their article “Perfectionism is increasing, and that’s not good news” remind us of the following truths:   failure is not weakness, there are healthier goals than perfection-such as perseverance, flexibility and diligence, and done is better than perfect.  

    I argue that a healthier goal than perfection is bravery.  My mantra last year, when I needed courage to push on ahead when I was feeling way out of my comfort zone was “pull up your big girl pants Angela”.  My favourite Scripture was-and still is “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.” (Joshua 1:9 and also Deuteronomy 31:6) 

    I know only too well that I am fighting against perfectionism, people pleasing, following the rules, being ‘nice’ and playing it safe. Being brave, being strong, being courageous for me is overcoming all these things and involves taking risks.  That is not always easy, when it involves me and my dreams.

    I have put off too many dreams and plans, because of pursuing perfection.   While I do not advocate foolishness and impetuousness, over analysing has proven paralysing. If a farmer waited for the perfect season, would he ever sow a field? If he never sowed a field, how would he ever hope to reap a crop? 

    If we want to make change in our lives, or if we want to grow, even have fun we have to risk appearing foolish and sometimes even fall on our face.  Unless we start somewhere, sometime, we will never find out what we can achieve or experience. 

    Let us not allow perfection to kill our bravery this year. Be bold, be audacious, be fearless, have courage and be strong.  Cheers to a 2019 filled with bravery! 

  • Joy and the Third Sunday of Advent

    Joy and the Third Sunday of Advent

    I find joy easier to identify in others than it is to find within myself.  I have never found it something that I could manufacture but rather something that bubbles up from within.  What if we cannot create it ourselves but instead it is a gift from God himself?

    On this third Sunday in Advent, we light the third candle-the candle of Joy. 

    When Jesus was born the angels declared that it was cause of great joy. (Luke 2:8-11)

    Joy, some say is a Christian word and a Christian thing. It is a feeling deep in the soul. 

    It is the simplest form of gratitude. (Karl Barth)

    It is not necessarily the absence of suffering but rather the presence of God. (Sam Storms)

    Have you found this joy that the angels talk about?   

    Will you light that candle with me and seek the source of that great joy; the Christ in Christmas. 

     “It is His joy that remains in us that makes our joy full.”  A.B. Simpson.

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  • Peace and the second Sunday of Advent

    Peace and the second Sunday of Advent

    Today-Sunday, is the second Sunday of the four advent Sundays before Christmas. When we light the second candle we do so in anticipation of the coming of the Prince of Peace himself. The same Prince of Peace who came to reconcile the world to God and promised the gift of peace to his followers.

    The Christmas story tells of an angel appearing to the shepherds, announcing the birth of the baby Jesus. Immediately following the announcement, a ‘heavenly host’ proclaimed peace to all on whom God’s favour rests. (Luke 2:14) The world then yearned for peace, as much as we do today. In spite of military might or diplomacy, world peace as we desire it still does not reign.

    What if peace though is something that starts in our hearts; displacing envy, greed and hatred? What if it is not something we can achieve ourselves without divine intervention?

    What are you anticipating with the coming of Christmas? Surely you-like I, prefer peace to chaos? Where does your peace come from? Will you light a candle today and consider the Prince of Peace himself and seek the gift of peace He promises?  

    Photo by Tamara Menzi on Unsplash